Deep Scorpio hugs
Tips and resources to capture Scorpio’s deep, sexy energy!
I’m definitely a lover of astrology, and if you’re reading this, you are, too. But it makes me a little crazy when people think they can define you only by your “Sun sign” – that’s the zodiac sign your birthday falls under, the time in the year when the Sun is passing through that constellation in the sky. If you’ve ever seen your natal chart, though, (which shows where all the planets were when you were born), you know it’s a lot more complex than that.
That said (and pardon the mini-rant), if there was ever a Sun sign whose true colors shine through, it’s Scorpio because it’s just so intense and charismatic.
It’s actually a little ironic that Scorpios are so identifiable since they can also be really private and secretive… I think that only adds to their allure. You’ve heard the phrase, ”still waters run deep”? Well, that’s Scorpio to a T. If you know someone with lots of Scorpio energy, they’re usually pretty multi-layered, which can give them an air of mystery. They draw you in with their personal magnetism.
Scorpio is ruled by the planet Pluto, who was the Roman god of the underworld, and you know he was no lightweight. No surprise, then, that Halloween – otherwise known as the Day of the Dead in many cultures – falls during the Scorpio cycle which runs from October 23rd until November 22nd. And when both the Sun and the Moon meet in Scorpio on the New Moon on November 7th, you’ve got a perfect recipe for deep soul-diving.
Understanding Scorpio’s depths
The “underworld” is a powerful metaphor for our personal subconscious and pulls us to examine our innermost feelings, urges, and psychological make-up, The fact that Scorpio is a water sign just deepens that exploration.
It also explains Scorpio’s urge for transformation, self-mastery and empowerment, as well as meaningful, intimate connection with others. And what’s the most intimate way for you to relate to someone? Through sex, of course! Then, when you tap into the sexual energy of Scorpio, you can’t help but address issues of control, power and manipulation. See what I mean by intense and complex?!
So, how do you use this powerful energy for the upcoming New Moon in Scorpio to deepen your intimate relationships?
New Moons in general are always a perfect time to plant seeds for the ideas, plans, and actions we want to grow over the coming weeks as the Moon itself waxes towards full again. If you’re really committed to maximizing that intention-setting energy, it’s best to do it within 3 days of the actual date of the New Moon on November 7th. But really, if either you and/or your partner are a Scorpio by birth, or if your moon is in Scorpio, you’ll get an extra hit of that lunar love magic whatever you decide to do.
With any intentional New Moon work, it’s always helpful to know what symbols and associations to draw on. Here are a few to get you started in creating your magical Scorpio toolkit:
Elemental energy – Water
Colors – black, purple
Gemstones – opal, topaz
Flowers – chrysanthemums
Essential Oils – ylang ylang, patchouli
Music – string instruments, piano
Food/Drink – spice-y, intense tastes
If you really want to pack your toolkit to the brim, you could also research Scorpio-themed movies, books, clothes, animals, places in nature. The list is endless, depending on what you’re drawn to explore.
Creating Scorpio New Moon love magic with your partner
With “deep and intimate” as our keywords, you can go in lots of directions to find activities and environments that capture the passionate Scorpio energy. In the spirit of healthy foreplay, we’ll start with a few more practical, but still deeply bonding, suggestions first, before you get to the more juicy ones:
1) Explore both of your ancestral histories. OK… I know this sounds completely boring but take a breath and stay with me. With the universal “Day of the Dead” celebrations around the world this month to honor the ancestors, you’ve got a personal cosmic nudge to explore your own. Researching your family tree through Ancestry.com is all the rage now, but it really has a deeper impact in terms of Scorpio’s lunar love magic:
The better you know your sweetheart and where they come from, the deeper your understanding of what makes them tick. Plus, it can be really fascinating and revealing to learn more about both of your ancestors… who knows, maybe you’re distant cousins, 10 times removed!
2) Get a relationship tune-up with couples therapy or coaching. Talk about deep soul-diving. Sharing your fears, your secrets and regrets can be terrifying. But with an experienced guide, it can help you and your partner peel away layers of misunderstanding or distrust to reach new depths of intimacy. And guess what… that will only enhance your love-making and feelings of connection.
If you feel like you’ve lost that sense of excitement and discovery you had when you first met, maybe it’s because one or both of you has stopped taking emotional risks. It takes courage to explore old wounds — and maybe more recent ones – but I’ve always maintained that staying committed to your own and each other’s personal growth and self-discovery process is the absolute #1 way to keep your relationship healthy and strong.
3) Embrace the Scorpio New Moon’s water-y energy… literally! If you want to combine some of that deep soul-talking on your own with a little sensual water magic, definitely rendezvous in the bathtub. Put a few drops of sensual ylang ylang essential oil in the tub and surround yourselves with lots of multi-layered (get it?!) chrysanthemum blooms.
You can listen to some mellow piano music if you’re just snuggling and talking — Erik Satie, the French composer and pianist, is a great choice for that. Or if you plan on being a little more rambunctious (hint, hint), “Mysterious Ways” by U2, and “I Put a Spell on You” by Creedence Clearwater Revival are perfect choices.
Or you can embrace the diving metaphor in a more adventurous way and plan a scuba diving vacation. The Professional Association of Diving Instructors (PADI) offers 5 reasons that diving with your significant other is so terrific… aside from loving how they look in a wetsuit!
4) Plan a romantic, sultry date night. No lunar love magic would be complete without creating a special Scorpio-themed night together. You can certainly start with your sensual bath and stay home… can’t get more private and cozy than that, as long as the kids are shipped out. Or, look for restaurants with a dark, intimate vibe, maybe even subterranean, to maximize the underworld connection.
Wherever you are, be sure to find creative ways to combine the spice-y, intense flavors that feed the Scorpio palate… two simple ones are salsa or ginger beer, and Food and Wine has some exotic suggestions, too, like Roquefort cheese and Campari, one of my personal favorites.
But really, the absolute best place to experience the Scorpio New Moon is in a speakeasy! Speakeasies were illicit liquor stores and bars that sprung up during the Prohibition years (1920-1933). Thankfully, their modern-day incarnations are no longer illegal, but still carry that same aura of mystery, with secret entrances and even passwords. You can find these creative “secret bars” all over the world or do some exploring to find one near you!
5) Try some new positions! Finally, the climax (of course) of our Scorpio New Moon exploration brings us to SEX. Of the three feelings-oriented water signs (Cancer and Pisces are the other two), Scorpio is definitely the most sensual and body-related. So this is the New Moon to really try out new ideas for emotional connection through love-making.
A powerful place to start is to learn about the Kama Sutra, the ancient Hindu text that offers poetry and prose about how to attain pleasure in all aspects of your life. While it’s best known for offering a multitude of creative sexual positions (complete with illustrations), that only makes up ~20% of the book… though definitely the most important information for our sexy Scorpio focus here.
Don’t let the fact that it’s a book deter you… it really does make for very sexy reading, and when you’re done, you’ll just have to practice everything you’ve learned!
There are so many directions to go when you’re playing with New Moon energy, and Scorpio’s lunar love magic is especially powerful to dive even deeper in your relationships. And just remember, singles, even though I’ve focused on couples here, most of these ideas can be adapted for solo exploration, too. Even if some of them require a partner, consider it important prep work for when you’ve attracted the playmate of your dreams!
Hi, I’m Deborah Roth, a Life and Relationship Coach, and also a Counseling Astrologer and Interfaith Minister. My Master’s thesis was on the power of transformative ritual and I love designing creative, meaningful rituals for individuals and couples to re-energize mind, body and spirit, and enhance their relationships.You can learn more about my work HERE or email me at Deborah@SpiritedLiving.com to schedule an introductory coaching session.