From Languishing to Flourishing

LIttle girl holding a camera

There’s no other way to say it. I’ve just been feeling a wee bit blob-y lately. Blah. Blues-y. Some of it’s personal, lots is global, like what’s going on in Afghanistan and Haiti, or the latest scary news about the Delta variant… seems like the list is endless.

Anybody else experiencing those times of free-floating yuckiness?

We’re not alone. Turns out it’s pretty common right now and psychologists even have a name for it: “languishing”. I read a terrific article about it a few months ago, then a few weeks later there was an equally powerful article on “flourishing” which offered concrete ways to move back to a place of well-being. One of my favorite suggestions was to engage in “mindful photography”. In one study, students were tasked with taking at least 5 photos of everyday things they enjoyed, twice a week for two weeks. Reflecting on the photos and those joyful moments they captured helped the students focus on the good in their lives.

Being the normally optimistic spirit that I am, I’ve accumulated LOTS of uplifting, soul-inspiring tools over the years and have shared many of them in my monthly newsletter “Deb’s Picks“. A few months ago I briefly mentioned the Positive Intelligence coach training program I’ve been in and now I’m ready to share what I’ve learned about up-leveling mental fitness with YOU!

You can read more about that below, along with a random mix of other ones, too. Let’s all commit to winding down the summer (tho that’s a little depressing, too :-{ ) on a high note — mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

And as always, I want to hear what cool things you’ve found to raise your spirit out of languishing!

Here are some ideas for lifting yourself out of languishing mode:

Learn how to pump up your MENTAL FITNESS W/THE 6-WEEK PQ PROGRAM

Shirzad Chamin wrote his best-selling book, Positive Intelligence in 2012 and through his Stanford lectures and working with 500,000 participants over the years, he’s created this powerful program. Basically, he defines mental fitness as measuring the strength of your positive mental muscles (Sage) versus the negative (Saboteur). It’s called your PQ (Positive Intelligence Quotient) and he was awarded a grant to offer the program to 1000 coaches – I’m one of them! And now I get to share his work which is a synthesis of the latest breakthroughs in neuroscience, cognitive and positive psychology, and performance science.

 Combining weekly video sessions and an exclusive App, you’re guided step-by-step over a six-week period to boost the 3 core muscles of mental fitness. The increased grey matter in the “Sage” region of the brain is visible in MRI imaging within 8 weeks. Pretty cool, huh?! And even more cool is that I’ll be rolling out the program myself for groups of 5 in the next few months with a very special offer. You can learn more about it by clicking on the image and even taking the “Saboteur Assessment”. Then contact me and we’ll talk about how to whip your Saboteurs into shape by strengthening your Sage brain!


I stumbled on this powerful form of mediation a few years ago, but really committed to it as a daily practice last Fall. What I love about it is that it has a physical component (touching your fingers throughout), a vocal chant (Sa-ta-Na-Ma), and it’s SHORT. Clinical research has shown that practicing Kirtan Kriya for just 12 minutes a day can improve cognition and activate parts of the brain that are central to memory — the Alzheimer’s Research and Prevention Foundation recommends it for just that reason. I suggest starting with Jennifer Hadley’s 40-day Meditation Challenge cuz she offers tons of background information and suggestions to make it even more powerful. Let me know what you think!


I love doing my weekly “Goddess Team” videos, just cuz it’s fun, but I also I learn alot myself doing them. I’d heard of Julian of Norwich, but not all the elements of her rich, spiritual legacy. She was a 14th century mystic and the first known English woman to have written a book. She’s also a pioneer of “body prayer” which, like yoga, connects us to the divine energy source within through our bodies  she called it “one-ing”. Click on my photo above and you can watch the video to learn the simple prayer and movements… guaranteed to sooth and ground you.


There are sooo many wonderful “good news” media sources out there! I tapped into them early on in the pandemic and I think you need a regular dose of them if you want to overcome languishing. I wanted to give you just a taste to get you exploring on your own (literally, just google “positive news”) — GNN is terrific, as is Positive News, and if you’re on Instagram, my favorite there is @goodnews_movement Add it to your daily practice.


If you know me, you know how much I love to SING — having Zoom rehearsals with my women’s chorus, the SoHarmoniums, is one of the things that’s kept me going during the pandemic. But I also discovered a bunch of fun sing-a-long groups and Sofa Singers is one of them. Choir! Choir! Choir! is another one. In fact, if you google “singalong concerts”, you’ll find a whole new world of group singing! It helps that there are now a bunch of studies that talk about the health benefits of singing in a chorus, or just with any group of like-minded spirits. Check them out as another way to rise out of the blahs!